They see girls like me as sisters, as homegirls, but not as love options, because they don’t find big girls sexy.
They usually find us I know there is this myth in Black America that brothers like their sisters thick, thick like a luscious milkshake, that “brings all the boys to the yard,” as it were.
I stopped eating unhealthy stuff like fast food and tried to keep my meals plain. I didn’t become a gym rat or an enthusiastic health freak. Then an epiphany hit me: Why the hell am I doing this? Why do I have to live by the superficial standards of the community? Thank goodness I didn’t develop anorexia or bulimia during those horrible months, though I must confess, there moments when I was tempted to go for more drastic measures. So I pulled myself out of the misery and began on another journey instead, one focused on self-acceptance and self-love.
My weight started to climb again but I didn’t care. It’s a huge struggle because the dating scene can be so brutal and cut-throat.
When I look in the mirror, for the most part, I like what I see.
I like my curves, I like ass, I like my legs, I like my boobs (which I only have in abundance, when I’m tipping the scales), and I like my face.
Experiences and Expectations of Antifat Bias in the Gay Male Community"—or, as I'd like to refer to it, "The Mean Gays Report"—used two studies to explore just how antifat gay men are, because simply logging into Grindr doesn't carry quite the same professional heft.
The first study found that out of 215 gay men, age 18 to 78, over one third of them had directly experienced antifat bias, even though most of them were not overweight using common body mass index guidelines.
Martijn used to be very insecure about his looks, saying that he "could not equate being overweight with being happy," and he found that dating on gay social media apps was hard.
But what I call thick and what the average brother calls thick is not the same thing. (Sister looks fabulous, by the way.) Not quite Gabourey Sidibe thick. And when I was doing the online dating thing (I’ve tried it twice, and I’m taking a break) I saw one brother that specifically said, “I’m not into the Mo’Nique thing, ladies.” Translation: No fat girls need apply.
It’s not popular to say (and I’m sure I’ll be e-stoned for saying it anyway), but if you’re overweight and serious about expanding your dating options, it may be worthwhile to shrink your waistline.
Nyní se můžete podívat na fotky žen žijící ve vašem okolí.
Ještě jednou vás žádáme, abyste uchovali jejich totožnost v utajení.